We don’t realize the damage we do when we gossip about others. We should strive to talk about issues and philosophical ideas, not gossip.
Devar Torah – The Power (and Danger) of Words
This week’s parashah, Tazria–Metzora, deals extensively with what happens to a person who speaks lashon hara—negative speech or gossip.
But the Torah makes a very striking point:
A person does not become tamei (often translated as “impure”) automatically.
Only when the kohen—the priest—declares it, does the status take effect.
This teaches us something profound:
Spiritual damage is not always visible. It requires recognition, awareness, and acknowledgment before it can be addressed.
Not “Impurity” — A Spiritual State
The English word “impure” is misleading.
We’re not talking about dirt or contamination in a physical sense.
We’re talking about a spiritual condition—a disconnect caused by how we use our speech.
The Easiest Sin to Commit
Lashon hara is one of the easiest sins to fall into.
- “Did you hear about…?”
- “Can you believe what happened to…?”
It feels harmless. Sometimes even entertaining.
But the Torah comes down very hard on it—because it’s so easy and so destructive.
Even great figures stumbled here.
Miriam, the sister of Moshe, spoke about him—and was immediately punished.
If someone at her level could fall into it, what about us?
A Timeless Lesson from Leadership
Consider Calvin Coolidge—known as “Silent Cal.”
He refused to engage in conversations about people—especially celebrities or gossip.
And his close advisor Bernard Baruch was once asked:
“What do you talk about with the President?”
His answer:
“Issues. Philosophy. He just doesn’t talk about other people.”
That’s a powerful model.
- Small people talk about other people
- Big people talk about ideas
It’s Not a Victimless Crime
We sometimes think gossip is harmless.
It’s not.
There was a case in Israel:
A young woman was seen receiving male visitors overnight. Rumors spread quickly.
People assumed the worst.
In reality?
They were her brothers, visiting from the army.
The damage, however, was already done.
Her reputation—and her dignity—were hurt deeply.
The Takeaway
The Torah is telling us:
- This is an easy trap
- It requires constant vigilance
- And it has real consequences
Before speaking, ask yourself:
If I were the person being discussed… how would this affect me?
That one pause can make all the difference.
Final Thought
Just as the kohen must declare a person tamei,
we must become our own “kohen”—
examining our words before we say them.
Because once words are out…
they cannot be taken back.
